Would you stay with a cheater?

You just found out that your partner has been cheating on you. What's your first move? Before you start chucking shit out of the window and setting things ablaze...what is cheating?

According to our good friends at Urban Dictionary, cheating can be described as: 

Someone who is in a committed relationship and breaks the trust of his or her partner by getting physically or emotionally involved with another person. Common forms of cheating include kissing, feeling each other up, vaginal, anal, oral sex and any other contact that involves the lips, hands, and genitals.

The real question is, do you stay with a man or woman if they've cheated on you?

Humm??

Now you may or may not agree the above quote, and me but I believe there are two forms of cheating: Physical & emotional.

Physical cheating is self-explanatory. The person has been involved physically with someone else. The most common "excuse" with physical cheating is "It didn't mean anything" or "It was a mistake" - right, because falling into another woman's vagina is totally normal. C'mon. really?

Emotional cheating is an affair between two people that mimic the closeness and emotional intimacy of a relationship while never being physical.

This may sound crazy, but I think emotional cheating is 10 times worse than a physical act. Yes, it sucks that your partner may have had intercourse with someone else, but imagine if they were telling the person they're cheating with their deepest desires and secrets...shit that technically you're only supposed to know.

Common thoughts that arise with being cheated on are -

"I've already invested so much so I can't leave him/her." 

People tend to blame themselves, or refuse to leave because they don't want to be a quitter. Which doesn't make sense to me because technically the person you're dating gave up on the relationship by stepping out on you in the first place...trifling.

Majority of the time cheaters cheat because they know they can.

If your partner knows that you know they're cheating on you and you're still sticking around why would they stop cheating? It's the best of both worlds! They can lay up with whomever and go home to you and your kids at the end of the day.

That's fair...right?

Ladies, if you take anything away from this post let it be this.



You teach a man how to treat you. 

1. You do that by respecting yourself, and demanding that he does the same.

2. You don't put up with his shit because at the end of the day you know that you don't deserve it.

3. You don't refer to yourself as a "bad bitch" that nonsense has TO GO. There is no way in hell a respectable man is going to take you seriously if that is how you refer to yourself. Stop. 

Being cheated on is a test of your self worth. If you decide to sit around and take it, try to clean up the cheating fiasco, doubt yourself and your worth..."did I do enough for him? I didn't cook enough. Did I take care of him properly? You'll drive yourself crazy. What should be saying is

"Was he doing enough? Is it worth all the pain and drama?"

Sweetie, cut your loses and show him what he's lost.

They never know what they have until it's gone. The moment you cut them loose they come crawling back with their tail in between their legs. Once they realize you're no longer interested in whatever sad excuse they have to offer, that's when the water works start. Well they can cry you a river because that ship sailed a long time ago. They weren't thinking about the consequences of their stupidity when they slept with their hoe... were they? NOPE.

Fellas, if you take anything away from this post let it be this.

You can't turn a THOT into a housewife. Thots will be thots!


1. Honestly, do you think a woman who posts videos like this wouldn't cheat on you?

2. Women who lack self-respect cannot be expected to remain faithful in a relationship.

3. When you date women who have nothing else to offer besides this, then you're to blame. You know better. 

It's one thing to find out that you've been cheated on... but you when find out that other people knew before you, that's a problem. It's not just the hurt and pain of the cheating ...it's the public embarrassment that comes with it.


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